It is no secret that Bella Thorne loves to experiment with her looks. She’s a pro at giving her fans eccentric style inspo. Despite changing her appearance being a routine for her, the DUFF actress had people stunned when she opted for dark locks instead of her signature red ones at the premiere of Assassination Nation at the Sundance Film Festival 2018.
Her look was extra fabulous with a black wig, and metallic makeup that made her stand out. Throne opted for a white and black ensemble with a thigh-skimming white dress embellished with fur and sequins. She completed her look with over-the-knee PVC boots. The Famous in Love star trekked through the snow expertly and warmed the chill with a padded jacket.
Thorne posed boldly with her co-stars Mauve Apatow, Odessa Young, Abra, director Sam Levinson, Hari Nef and Suki Waterhouse. At the movie’s after-party, she took her look to next level funky with a bright pink wig. Her outfit revealed her abs as she posed in a cropped black jumper and black skinny jeans.
Though the pink headpiece also had bangs cut like the raven one, it was of a shorter length. However, since both the looks were temporary fans wouldn’t have to adapt to a newer look of Bella’s just yet. Looks like the former Disney babe is yet not bored of her long, red tresses. One thing that we learned though; this year is going to be all about PVC boots. These have had their fair space on runways too.
Once, in an interview with People magazine, Thorne had said about her ever-occurring hair transformations, “It feels good and I always love funky hair colors. I always wanted blue hair, I wanted green hair, purple hair, so it’s just fun to do.” In another interview, she had said, “I dyed it blue, just because I felt like it. My sister dyed hers pink and we just like doing it to be matching and coordinated. It was just fun. Her boyfriend did his color too. It was cool.”
Who doesn’t love a wedding? The free-flowing bubbly, the atmosphere and the food all make for a great day. However, if you’ve been a vegan guest in the past you may know that the latter can sometimes be a little tricky. But it seems this could no longer be the case.
Last year saw more and more people choosing plant based options for the menu on their big day, top fashion magazine Vogue even named their top wedding trend of 2017 as vegan food.
The proof for this is in the pudding says cake shop owner Amy Alward, who observed to the Portland Press Herald, ‘90 percent of our brides asked for a vegan and gluten-free option in 2017.’ Alward owns Love Kupcakes Bakery in Maine and her prediction is that the demands in 2018 will be much the same as last year.
Caite Fairbanks-Cliffe, who runs Destination Maine Weddings, has agreed with Alward. Fairbanks-Cliffe said, ‘last year I really saw the change, at almost every bigger wedding I did last year, we had vegan options. In a couple of cases, either the bride or groom was vegan. Or a couple of their very good friends were vegan.’
After all, a wedding is all about love and compassion, so why not celebrate it with some cruelty free vol-au-vents?
If it seems like fashion owns the world, one thing’s for certain: fashion owns animals in more ways than one — from leather and fur to feathers and bones — animals aren’t just on our tables; they’re in our closets, too.
Now, the topic of sustainability and promoting vegan materials is set to be the focus of the Victoria & Albert Museum’s next major fashion exhibition – Fashioned from Nature, which will feature 300 items on display showing the trajectory of fashion from its exploitive roots to its ethical future.
Some historic items on display include 1870s earrings made from the whole heads of red-legged honeycreeper songbirds, a cape of cockerel feathers, a pine marten fur hat, and a muslin dress adorned with the wing cases of hundreds of green metallic beetles.
In addition to exposing animal-derived materials, the exhibition sheds light on raw fibres used to make aesthetic accouterments, like wool, silk, flax, and cotton. Although uncommon in today’s society, also on exhibit are whalebone and turtle shells, which were considered luxury materials in the 1700s.
Fashionistas of every era have been pursuing increasing their wardrobe options with the latest trends. To keep up, production has upscaled to an almost immeasurable point. In this day and age, human workers are exploited by being overworked and underpaid in unsafe sweatshops. What has been dubbed the ‘Fashion Revolution’ led to many activist groups campaigning and protesting for a more sustainable and ethical fashion world. These efforts are also displayed as art in Fashioned from Nature.
The ‘WhoMadeMyClothes’ is a recent campaign where garment tags feature the stories and sometimes the pictures of the workers who made their clothes in an effort to push transparency. Corresponding bold slogans and posters are featured in the exhibit highlighting what can be the very un-glamourous side of clothing. Nearby is ethical designer Katharine Hamnett’s 1989 ‘Clean Up or Die’ collection and a Vivienne Westwood inspired mannequin. Stella McCartney’s cruelty-free materials, Christopher Ræburn’s upcycled military fabric-wear, clothing made from recycled bottles and citrus waste have their spot, too, with light cast on innovative, eco-friendly and humane fashion. The exhibition will run from April until January 2019.
What she makes • In addition to making limited editions of custom bowties, Simpson performs tailoring and alterations services for both men and women. She also designs and makes custom designs, including wedding dresses.
How much • Custom bowties $40 and up; tailoring prices are listed on the website.
When designer Carmella Simpson discovers an interesting vintage garment or a length of intriguing fabric, she often turns her finds into unique custom bowties, which she makes in limited editions of six, 12 or 20 bowties. Brides employ her services not only to alter or make their special dress, but also to craft unique bowties for their wedding parties. • For Simpson, whose business encompasses tailoring and alterations for women and men as well as the design and construction of custom garments, the bowties add a little whimsy and a lot of connectedness to life. “I see bowties not only as fashion, but as a social connection. People notice the person who wears a bowtie. If that person happens to be a woman, she often gets a second look,” Simpson says. “If two people recognize they are each wearing the same print of my limited edition bowties, right away they know they share a special connection.”
A stitch in time • “I actually started sewing in high school, when I took a home economics class at Southwest High School,” Simpson says. “Fashion and sewing have always been part of my life, but after high school, when I joined the military, my world expanded. I fell in love with European fashions, which influence my work in fashion to this day.”
Flying high • “I had an amazing job on active duty in the Air Force. I was one of five people who worked full-time with the air medical unit transferring patients around the world for care.” Simpson was able to see fashions the world over. “Unfortunately, the military culture was not for me. I’m one of those ‘me too’ people. I couldn’t give two weeks notice and resign, but the experience did get me transferred to the air medical unit. I stayed in the Air Force for eight years. After I left military service, I enrolled at the International Academy of Design and Technology in Chicago and earned a degree in clothing design. I did my internship in costuming at the Goodman theater. After graduation, I worked in theater and created designs for private clients.”
Unearthing the unique and extraordinary • In 2007, Simpson, who had returned to St. Louis, opened a boutique she named Od’diction, a play on words that defined the direction she took in fashion. “I didn’t want looks in my store that you could see everywhere. I found limited editions from designers whose styles fit with my European-influenced sensibilities,” she says. “Unfortunately, my timing was terrible. Opening a high-end fashion store in the middle of an economic crash didn’t go well.”
Practical magic • Simpson turned on a dime, as it were, and entered the tailoring business. “In 2008 and for years after, people didn’t have money for expensive new clothes. They had to take care of the fine clothes they owned. I started my tailoring and alterations business to help people look good without spending a lot of money,” she says. Over time, she met customers’ needs for special services as well. “A woman would come to me with her mother’s wedding dress. Together, we’d figure out how to make the dress work for the daughter. I’ll often remake the style, using the same fabrics, laces and trims. Even today, this is a big part of my business.”
Unexpected pairings • Simpson, a resilient business owner, never lost her love of the extraordinary in fashion. With the creation of custom bowties, she expresses her unique design sense in limited editions, each with a touch of the unexpected. Whether it be a unique vintage fabric or an inspired juxtaposition of materials, like soft, worn denim fabrics bedecked with pearls and lace, Simpson’s ties surprise. “I like to describe my style as ‘conservatively rebellious,’” Simpson says. “I’m proud to be making things in St. Louis. We have so many good St. Louis designers working here now — we don’t often get in the spotlight — but we strengthen the design community with our work every day.”
In case you haven’t heard, engagement season has officially begun. Which means that more and more brides- and grooms-to-be are starting to plan a wedding for 2018. If you happen to be part of this camp, then congratulations! But as you are likely well aware, there’s a ton of work that needs to get done between now and your big day. For starters, you have to book a venue, order invitations, and commit to a myriad of vendors. However, before you send out those digital invites or accidentally choose a constricting color scheme, be sure to read the advice we’ve compiled below.
Here, seven top wedding planners, including Mindy Weiss and Bronson van Wyck, sound off on the wedding trend mistakes that they think people should avoid in 2018. After all, in an Instagram- and Pinterest-dominated world, it’s easy to get swept up in a trend of the moment without even realizing it. So if you want your wedding photos to stand the test of time, rather than making you (and others) ultimately cringe, think twice when it comes to naked cakes, rose gold, and much, much, more.
1. Flower Walls and Ceilings
“These are done, finished . . . out!”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
2. Rose Gold Everything
“Don’t get me wrong, I love this elegant color and it’s still very much in-demand right now. But going all-in with rose gold can make your wedding feel dated years later. Instead, opt for touches of rose gold throughout your wedding decor. It will make the color pop and feel less overwhelming. Take it a step further by mixing other metallics as well.”—Mindy Weiss of Mindy Weiss Party Consultants
“I’m thinking flatware, napkin rings, chargers, and glass cylinders with column candles and rose gold foil invitations. Rose gold may have 10 more minutes, but it’s time to go.”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
3. Photo Booths
“Photo booths had their moment. But you’ll likely end up with a bunch of photos of your friends all doing the same thing. Think holistically and create fun, photo-ready moments throughout the evening. A hand-painted mural or an archway trimmed with garlands are opportunities for guests to take great pictures that don’t involve saying ‘cheese’ or looking cheesy.”—Bronson van Wyck of Van Wyck
4. Twinkle Lights
“Unless you’re having a holiday-inspired December wedding, leave the twinkle lights for Christmas. There are so many elegant ways to light your reception, from soft washes of light to string lights with market bulbs, to beautiful hanging lanterns or chandeliers.”—Laurie Arons of Laurie Arons Special Events
5. Bunched Table Linens
“This recent trend of bunching linens on dinner tables may be inspired by Dutch still-life paintings, but in real life, it’s messy and impractical. It’s difficult for guests to set down glassware on the uneven surface, and creases or wrinkles in the linens just look like sloppy execution.”—Laurie Arons of Laurie Arons Special Events
6. Too Many Specialty Cocktails
“A special cocktail or two that reflect the bride and groom’s favorite flavors is a lovely touch for any wedding. But including several of these artisan beverages in your cocktail hour overwhelms your guests with choices and slows down bar service. Pick your two favorites, then let the guests order their own favorite drink from the bar.”—Laurie Arons of Laurie Arons Special Events
7. Naked Cakes
“What started out as a rustic wedding trend is now popping up everywhere. But naked cakes, in my opinion, are far too casual and unfinished for most wedding receptions. The lack of frosting also causes the cake to dry out more quickly, leaving guests with a less-than-ideal dessert at the end of an otherwise great night.”—Laurie Arons of Laurie Arons Special Events
8. Vintage Table Settings
“Vintage pieces are just too small and precious. So avoid the old china, crystal, and silverware.”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
9. Place Card Walls
“Why build a wall? Unless you are celebrating in a Hudson Valley stone barn with killer stone interiors that you want to highlight, don’t bother.”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
10. Mixed Fonts
“When it comes to wedding stationery, it’s time to go back to the classic wedding invitation with one font style and size. No more mixing. Simplicity rules in 2018.”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
11. “No Flower” Weddings
“Pantone’s color of 2017 was Greenery. A lot of people took that to heart when it came to their weddings, eschewing live flowers in favor of eco-friendly succulents. We’re delighted that 2018’s choice is Ultra Violet and seriously hope that no one will ever consider ‘no flower’ weddings again. The brighter and bolder, the better!”—Marc Eliot of Swoop
12. Overwhelming Food “Experiences”
“Interactive food stations are all the rage at weddings these days. While something like a made-to-order sushi bar is a great way to add some interest to your event and get guests mingling, don’t go overboard with multiple food ‘experiences’ unless you have a solid plan for crowds. You don’t want getting food to feel like a chore for your guests. And if they have to wait on long lines for custom creations, or do a lot of the heavy lifting themselves, it will.”—Mindy Weiss of Mindy Weiss Party Consultants
13. Digital Invites
“The times may be changing, but brides and grooms alike should bring back the traditional stationery wedding invitation. Digital invites are so impersonal. And when your big day comes and goes, you will have your stationery to look back on. Plus, who doesn’t like to open non-junk mail?”—Marc Eliot of Swoop
14. Champagne Towers (of Terror)
“While a tower of Champagne may look great in photos, all it takes is one accidental bump to come crashing down. Instead, delight your guests with a ‘bubbly bar.’ If you want that picture-perfect moment, dust each rim with edible gold glitter.”—Marc Eliot of Swoop
15. Non-Traditional Cake Flavors
“Couples are spending an exorbitant amount of money on multi-tiered cakes with flavors such as apple cider, hot chocolate, orange liqueur, and matcha. Most guests do not appreciate these exotic flavors, leaving the couple with a lot of leftover dessert. Opt for a vanilla, chocolate, or red velvet cake and dress it up on the outside. If you want to experiment, do it with a smaller groom’s cake.”—Marc Eliot of Swoop
16. Donut Walls
“Donuts are not the new cupcakes. Avoid this trend unless your father owns a donut shop.”—Bryan Rafanelli of Rafanelli Events
17. Blush and Neutral Color Tones
“It’s more about merging the traditional with the unexpected pops of color.”—Emily Pinon of Bastille Flowers & Events
18. Overdone and Overcrowded Tables
“Less is more. Negative space will add to the overall composition.”—Emily Pinon of Bastille Flowers & Events
19. Welcome Bags
“Don’t give people more stuff, nobody needs it! Think about the planet and the last time you actually wanted to carry extra trinkets back in your suitcase after someone else’s wedding. Instead, maybe give one really nice item, like a travel candle.”—Yifat Oren of Oren Co.
20. Large Bridal Parties
“Aren’t you surrounded by your friends and family anyway? Instead of a huge bridal party, give your loved ones meaningful roles in the ceremony that are more participatory and reflective of your relationships with those people.”—Yifat Oren of Oren Co.
21. Tight and Compact Bridal Bouquets
“Tight and compact bridal bouquets, where the flowers are overcrowded and stuffed together, is not a good look. A loose, natural style with movement is much more elegant.”—Emily Pinon of Bastille Flowers & Events
22. Rustic Burlap and Mason Jars
“Save your burlap for transporting potatoes and leave the mason jars at the cannery. That combo is so done, it hurts to even hear about it.”—Bronson van Wyck of Van Wyck
23. Constricting Color Palettes
“Instead of a single color palette carried through an entire wedding, think of the celebration as a series of acts, each with its own look and its own colors. Take the guests on a journey and reveal a new look at each step. This can also be a great opportunity to let your own look change throughout the night.”—Bronson van Wyck of Van Wyck
“Avoid trying to match every aspect of your wedding day. There should be a flow but a matchy-matchy look is passé.”—Emily Pinon of Bastille Flowers & Events
25. Non-Edible Take-Home Gifts
“If it’s not edible, it’s a total waste. If you don’t want to give an edible take-home gift, make a donation to a charity on behalf of your guests and communicate your decision through a sign.”—Emily Pinon of Bastille Flowers & Events
26. Royal Wedding Copycats
“Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s upcoming wedding is sure to shake up the wedding world as we anxiously await her dress, the food, and so much more. While it’s perfectly acceptable (and expected!) to want to take inspiration from a few elements of this royal affair (or any celebrity wedding for that matter), you don’t want your event to feel like an imitation of a high-profile wedding. Be sure to take your own personalities and your own love story into account and personalize your wedding in your own way.”—Mindy Weiss of Mindy Weiss Party Consultants.Read more at:bridesmaid dresses | short wedding dresses
There's only one thing I like more than gawking at photos of people's weddings. And that's gawking at photos of wedding dresses.
I'm no Muriel Heslop but I have had a fascination with wedding gowns ever since I was a young girl attending school near one of Melbourne's most famous bridal districts.
Last weekend, I oohed and aahed as I ogled the photos of TV presenter Lauren Phillips' wedding to Lachie Spark.
For a celebrity wedding, it had it all: a postcard-perfect location, star-studded guest list and two wedding dresses.
During the ceremony, Phillips wore a full-skirted, strapless beaded gown by designer Con Ilio. She then changed for the reception into a slinkier, equally extravagant, dress, by the same designer, for the reception.
Following on the heels of Serena Williams' double-dress nuptials in November to Alexis Ohanian – in Alexander McQueen and Versace – the Duchess of Cambridge (two dresses) Chrissy Teigen (three Vera Wangs) and fashion influencer Giovanna Battaglia's (four gowns), the multiple-dress wedding has been gathering pace.
And while it's fine for celebrities with lots of money – although some could be getting their dresses for free in exchange for the publicity for the designer – what precedent does it set for "ordinary brides"?
Of course, the wearing of multiple wedding outfits isn't new. Since the early 20th century, brides have been changing into "going away" outfits at the end of their reception, often because they were headed straight on honeymoon and didn't need the excess baggage.
But more frequently the 11pm outfit change has become the 6pm outfit change, and we're all the poorer for it.
I can sympathise with brides who want their princess fantasy and be able to drop it low on the dance floor – sometimes the one dress can't meet both needs. But I love the city and the beach and can only afford one house, so guess what? I prioritised.
And still, more brides are saying yes to the dresses, plural. They want their fruit cake and they want to eat it, too.
When I got married in 2008 (I have since divorced), it never occurred to me that I would have a reception dress; my mother generously gave me money for my one, perfect dress, and that was it.
Maybe the rules are different for celebrities, who often have more funds and feel there's more pressure to deliver the perfect story for social media and a magazine spread.
Still, I can't help feeling that women such as Phillips and Williams, and even lesser known brides, are setting a new "normal" that for most brides is out of reach.
Finances notwithstanding, this recent expectation that brides will stun their guests with another "reveal", even before entree is served, only adds to the myriad pressures already bearing down on many brides.
There's also the pressure of factoring in outfit changes into what is already a hectic day. And often that means pulling someone else away from the festivities to help a bride in and out of the dresses.
One clever bride I know opted for a compromise: the convertible dress, which makes more sense to me than starting from scratch with a second dress. And it's more cost effective.
Finding a wedding dress should be a memorable experience for both bride and her inner circle. To me, wearing two dresses somehow takes away from the euphoria of finding "the one". And if you love your dress – the one in which you say "I do" – so much, why on heaven's earth would you want to take it off?
It’s wedding season and it’s not just the Indian television industry that is engrossed in the Shaadi fever. Aishwarya Rai Bachchan also enjoyed an enchanting marriage ceremony of her cousin in Mangalore.
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Accompanied by mother Vrinda Rai, Aishwarya was gorgeous in a red saree with mellow golden embroidery. Daughter Aaradhya was twinning with mommy in a red salwar suit.
While the day was to celebrate her uncle Uday Kumar Shetty’s son Prajwal’s wedding, Aishwarya stole all the limelight. Guests at the wedding started surrounding Aishwarya just to catch a glimpse of the most beautiful woman in the world.
Social media was flooded with candid pictures and videos of the actress and her family. She was also recorded speaking in her mother tongue Tulu.
Last time, when Aishwarya made a public appearance with Aaradhya, the actress wasn’t quite happy about the presence of the media.
Aishwarya, along with her daughter visited the SMILE Train foundation to meet and greet the children. She also cut a cake in memory of her father. But an overwhelmed Aishwarya wasn’t quite pleased with the paparazzi present at the event. She was irritated by the chaos caused by the shutterbugs and was constantly asking them to stop clicking pictures.
But what happened next, shocked everyone. An agitated Aishwarya broke into tears and requested the cameramen to stop clicking pictures.
“Please stop it. You guys don’t know the work. This is not a premiere. This is not another public event. Please show some respect guys. What’s wrong with you all?” asked a fuming Aishwarya.
Meanwhile, Aaradhya turned six on November 16 and to celebrate, mother Ash and father Abhishek Bachchan hosted a grand party. Apart from grandparents Amitabh and Jaya Bachchan, the party was attended by Shah Rukh Khan, Aamir Khan, Shilpa Shetty and their kids.
On the work front, Aishwarya Rai Bachchan was last seen in 2016’s Ae Dil Hai Mushkil and is currently busy with Fanney Khan, co-starring Anil Kapoor and Rajkummar Rao.
A Michigan woman who lost her future husband in the line of duty chose to pose for her wedding photos alone — to honor their love and leave the pain behind.
Nikki Salgot of Saint Clair Shores, Mich., said on Facebook she wanted the photos as a reminder that her fiancé's death could not break her. Salgot’s fiancé Wayne State University police officer Collin Rose was shot and killed while patrolling last year, the day before Thanksgiving. They were planning to marry Oct. 14, 2017.
As the date neared, Salgot reached out to photographer Rachel Heller of Rachel Smaller Photography to capture a memorial photoshoot.
"I remember being in tears on the way there, thinking, 'How am I going to do this? How am I going to find a way to take photos that will do this justice, not just for her but for him," Heller, who herself was about to be married the following week, told Today.
Salgot wore her white wedding dress and held a folded American flag for the photos taken 10 days before what would have been her wedding date.
“She captured images that still vividly show the pain left behind; images that show I am still able to laugh, smile and be me; images that show this loss has not and will not destroy me; and my favorite, images that show I am still just as fierce as ever and refuse to let this define me," Salgot said.
Heller told Today when she saw Salgot that day she knew these photos would be pictures of "grief and resilience and strength and vulnerability and authenticity, all at once."
1. Meet the legal requirements
If you’re not a Swiss citizen, you must be resident in Switzerland to get married here. You must also be over 18, of the opposite sex (same-sex marriage is still illegal here, though same-sex couples can enter into a registered partnership) and be able to prove that you are not already married or in a registered partnership.
2. Apply for your civil ceremony
Marriage in Switzerland must take place in a civil ceremony held at an official civil register office venue. That doesn’t mean you can’t arrange your own religious or private celebration in addition, but it can’t replace the civil ceremony.
Various administrative steps must be taken in order to apply for your civil wedding and have it approved by the registrar. Foreigners must supply their birth certificate, declarations of marital status and passports and complete a ‘marriage preparation’ form.
But the process isn’t not too onerous, according to Shawna McEvoy, an American who got married to her Northern Irish partner Christi in Lausanne in July.
“Administratively it was fine. We both have our [residence] permits. We needed to supply them with a bunch of documents – I had to go up the consulate in Bern and get them to sign a document to swear I’d never been married.
“About a month before you get married they will invoke you for a pre-wedding consultation, which sounds nervewracking but is basically to make sure you speak French and have all your documents.”
Once your marriage application is approved by the registrar you have three months in which to hold your civil ceremony.
If you don’t speak the local language a translator should be present during the ceremony. Your chosen two witnesses must also be able to understand what’s going on.
The civil ceremony will set you back between 300 and 400 francs, says Swiss government portal ch.ch, which has further details on the administrative process
Your marriage certificate from your civil wedding must be presented at your church or place of worship if you wish to have a second ceremony there.
3. Decide on your family name
Prior to 2013 women in Switzerland had to either change their surname to their husband’s or double their surname with his. However since the law changed couples can choose what they want to do: both may keep their names or either may change it to the other’s. Creating a double name by combining your surnames (eg Meier Muller) is no longer allowed. Adding a hyphen (Meier-Muller) is technically allowed, but can’t be used as your official name on the civil register. Couples getting married must also decide which of their surnames to give any future children.
4. Celebrate your own way
Apart from the legal requirement that you have a civil ceremony, you’re free to celebrate your wedding however you wish. Perhaps you want a religious blessing – in which case the place of worship you attend in Switzerland will be able to advise you – or maybe you want to do things a little differently. After all, one benefit of having a wedding away from your home country is the freedom to do things exactly as you wish, McEvoy feels. “You’re relieved of that pressure of what people think you have to do for a wedding,” she says.
She and Christi chose to have an additional ceremony in the Lavaux vineyards above Lake Geneva, with the groom’s father leading the service. Then, deciding against a package from an expensive Swiss hotel, they rented a low key space in Sauvabelin park in Lausanne for their reception and arranged everything else – the caterer, the band, the wine, the decorations – themselves.
5. Plan early
If you’ve invited guests from your home country, make sure you tell them the date early enough so they can organize flights to Switzerland and accommodation.
“It’s considerate for the guests but it also takes off your responsibility – if people wait to book their flights then it’s their problem!” McEvoy says.
6. Save costs by shopping abroad
We all know Switzerland is expensive. But unlike in some countries, telling your venue or caterer that your event is a wedding does not lead to an automatic hike in prices, according to McEvoy, who estimates they paid $20-25,000 for theirs, well under the 2016 US average of $35,000.
Nevertheless, it pays to shop around, she advises, both in Switzerland and abroad. “We did bring a lot of stuff in from the UK and the States. Little things like renting tablecloths – it was cheaper to buy them in another country.”
They even flew over a videographer from Scotland. “We paid for his flights and accommodation, and it was actually cheaper than getting a videographer here. The price they were offering [here] was astronomical.”
7. Be clear with your instructions
It may be the first time some of your guests have visited Switzerland – and many won’t speak the language – so cut down on problems by making it as easy as possible for them to get about and understand what’s happening when.
“You have to give clear directions to your guests. You have to be here at this time, this train, this platform. We had ushers who were lined up to take people from place to place. There are a lot of companies to rent a special vehicle if you want one,” McEvoy says.
They also used a wedding website for instructions and did all guest admin online. “We didn’t send paper invitations, particularly because then people would have to send everything back to Switzerland which is a pain for them.”
8. Give your guests a good holiday
With guests coming from afar and probably paying a fair whack to be at your wedding, it’s only right to make sure they have a blast.
“We tried to make it really guest-orientated. Christi and I have our lives to be married. Our wedding was about sharing it and this place with friends and family, and it will be the only occasion that we will have everyone together,” McEvoy says.
One highlight of their wedding day was an hour’s tour through the vineyards on the Lavaux Express tourist train they rented for the occasion. “After speaking with guests they said that was their favourite thing.”
The following day they organized another informal event for guests who had no plans, McEvoy adds. “We really tried to maximise the time we spend with friends and family.”
Once you’re engaged, the debate is normally whether you want to have a short or a long engagement. Do you want to give yourself some breathing room to plan and enjoy being engaged or jump right into married bliss? But, while those are definitely the more common approaches, there is an Option C: Some people just don’t get married. The engagements don’t end in marriage, not because the couple splits, but because they just choose to stay engaged. Happily ever after, with no plans of a wedding in sight.
For every woman who’s wanted to get married, that must seem like a total nightmare—living in marital purgatory. The wedding is the day that they imagined with their partner and the significance of that is too much to ignore. But for women who like the idea of commitment, but aren’t that keen on the wedding or the having “a day,” staying engaged can be a really great option. An engagement party means you can still have a celebration (and, crucially, the gifts) but for those who just find the idea of a wedding too much pressure, you don’t have to take the next step. You can just...be.
So why would a couple choose to stay in an engagement? Well, there are a few different reasons that real women shared. When it comes to why marriage isn’t always the end goal, the rationale can be very practical to downright romantic.
Saving Money And Biding Time
Sometimes, real life gets in the way. The plan may be to get married but, as events unfold, it starts to seem like less of a reality—and less of a priority. “Originally, we wanted to save money for a big wedding, so we thought we would wait a couple of years,” Lauren, 31, who’s been engaged for two and a half years, says. “But then there was always something better to put the money towards. We’d like to get married someday, but now we both feel like we want to get a home first—which could be five years away.” Money is a really common theme in having a long engagement that turns in a longer engagement and maybe even an indefinite one. With cost of living and student loan debt being so high, it’s easy to see how it happens. And once you put the wedding off for a bit, there’s always something else you can find to spend the money on.
Money and practical considerations aren’t always about the wedding itself. For some couples getting married can look like a great idea until they look at the impact it will have on their lives, then they see that issues like taxes and grants can make a difference. “We have decided to wait because my son will be going to college and if he can get grants they will just go by my income,” Sossity, 45 who’s been engaged for almost two years explains. “My fiance is all about saving money! And I don’t mind waiting.” They were together for 10 years before they got married, so she said that waiting a few more after an engagement didn’t seem like a huge change. Even if they never get married, she said it doesn’t really matter.
This Was All They Needed
It wasn’t always money driving the decision to not get married. For some people, being engaged just felt like enough. “I was so happy go get engaged and I love my partner,” Zoe, 38, says. “We’ve been engaged for five years and, if I’m honest, I can’t see it changing. I wanted to have a public (and private) display of commitment between us, but I feel like I have that. We’re engaged, we have a house and two kids together, it was never about a wedding.” Although for some women this might sound counter-intuitive, I completely see the benefits of staying engaged. You can feel secure that you have both acknowledged your plans to be together, to yourselves and to everyone else, but you don’t have to spend the money and energy to plan a wedding. Plus, some people just don’t like the attention being on them. This way, it doesn’t have to be.
It might seem like the logical thing to do after you get engaged is to start planning a wedding. And for the most people, that’s exactly how it plays out. But for some, life gets a bit more complicated. That doesn’t mean that their commitment is any less strong, it just means that priorities shift. One of the great things about modern relationships and modern marriages is that it can look different and be different for everyone. And if being engaged works for you, then there’s no reason not to just stay that way.